Return to Europe: Anti-Trafficking 2015

Hi Friends,

I just wanted to send out an update on how things are progressing for my upcoming trip to Bulgaria and Greece to work with anti-trafficking ministries. We leave in 12 days which is so exciting!! I'm very eager to go and visit again the ministries that we worked with two years ago on our first trip. There have been such amazing developments in the ministries, and I can't wait to see how God is pushing back the darkness of trafficking in these places. 

In Bulgaria, in addition to prayer walking, helping with outreach, and learning about sustainable livelihood projects, we'll also have an opportunity to go and visit a Roma village in the countryside. Bulgarian woman are trafficked outside of Bulgaria, generally to western Europe. Within Bulgaria, Roma (Gypsy) women are sent by their husbands/boyfriends into the city to earn money so that the men can sit around and gamble instead of work. We'll have the opportunity to do prevention work alongside our partners there. We're going to be able to work with the children in the village - to hopefully bring them joy and hope and acknowledge the worth that they have as children of God. Please pray that these little lives will never know what it is to be sold by those who should cherish them.

Artwork in the MTW Bulgaria Office to represent freedom

In Athens, we'll be able to do many of the same things as in Bulgaria such as prayer walk and learn about sustainable livelihood, but we'll also have the opportunity to do an Ikea trip to help outfit a brand new home that will serve as transitional housing for women who have been freed from slavery. Also, just today we learned of an exciting possibility, so would you please pray with us that it would come to fruition? We've been told there may be an opportunity to go and work in one of the refugee camps for an afternoon. Already, traffickers have started working and volunteering in these camps in order to identify the vulnerable and easily exploited. Please pray for the protection of the vulnerable in these camps. Prevention is so critical in this battle. 

Thank you so much for your support and encouragement along this journey. Your prayers are incredibly precious to me. A huge praise is that my financial goal has almost been met. I'm short of my target by just $110. Additionally, excess funds that are received can go towards things games and crafts for the Roma children or nail polish and lotion for outreach care packages for women in brothels. The information on financial contributions is below. 

Please let me know if you have any questions. And thank you so much for walking alongside me in this endeavor!

Blessings, 

Jen

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Spring Reading List 2015

I'm quite delayed on posts, so here's the first in an attempt to catch up.

This summer I did a Bible study looking at the life of David, and reflecting on the books I read this summer, I'm reminded of 2 Samuel 11:1 - "In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war..."  I really feel like my spring reading was all about war which meant lots of tears. Here's a look at what I was reading:

Nightingale by Kristin Hannah - This was a gorgeous book written about two very different sisters during World War II. The atrocities of what they survived during that time period are incredible, and heartbreaking, and make me think how I would never, ever survive war. On the continuum of devastating to happy ending, this books lands somewhere in the middle - not quite as sad as All the Light We Cannot See (also about France in WWII), but also not quite as happy as the next book listed (for a change of pace, looking at France during WWI). The author employs dual narration with first person narrator in the present time (and you're not quite sure which sister's perspective it is until the end) and then omnipotent third person in the past. I'm not a huge fan of first person narration, but it was in limited batches here. This book was the first I've read by Kristin Hannah, and I'd like to try some more of hers. Any recommendations? You'll see from my summer reading list, that I'm taking a break from tragedy for a bit, though.

The Girl You Left Behind by Jojo Moyes - I was willing to take a second chance Jojo Moyes after the extremely anger-inducing Me Before You. (I'm not sure whether I'll be able to read the recently released sequel to that book, After You). The Girl You Left Behind was also about sisters during war in France. It also involved contemporary and historical story lines, although there was much more focus on the contemporary plot in this novel as compared to Nightingale. (Do you ever wondering if authors are given a writing prompt like "sisters in France during war with art involved? I swear they must be given how many books on similar topics come out at the same time). Anyway, even without Nazis, war in France is absolutely devastating. The choices characters are forced to make between something awful and something also equally but differently awful are heart wrenching. Of the three war-in-France books I've read this year, this one did end up at the closest end of the spectrum to happily ever after, though. It probably had the worst writing of the three, though. Not that it was bad writing, but it is being compared to the absolute gorgeous (yet tragic) prose of a Pulitzer Prize winner (All the Light...).

The Orphan Master's Son by Adam Johnson - another Pulitzer Prize winner, and while this book maybe isn't strictly about war, it is about North Korea, so basically the same thing. This book was a totally fascinating look behind the curtain at one of the least know countries in the world. Even though it's fictional, it's so meticulously researched that it seems like non-fiction. Even having lived in a communist country that borders NK, some of the viewpoints on the West were simply fascinating (i.e. instead of the government providing food for its people, in America, citizens must work for pieces of paper that they then stand in line to exchange for food). Mostly, I think this is a book about a government that's declared war on it's own people. Fascinating, and fantastical in some of its creativity, this book also devastatingly showcases pain, horror, and the reality of life when there's no good choice to make.

Ok, that's spring reading. Stay tuned for summer reading which is going to look like complete fluff after this list. 

Reading on a Budget

Some events with my car in January precipitated a long, hard look at my monthly budget. While I've always had a budget, it's come to my attention that having a nicely categorized excel sheet is not so much the same as actually monitoring how much you spend in each of those categories. So my long, hard look is kind of more of an "actually stick to the budget you made" type thing. 

One of the revelations of this exercise (other than the fact that aggressively paying off car debt is addictive) is that I definitely didn't realize how much money I'd been spending on books. I LOVE reading and if it's a book I enjoy, then I love to own so that I can share it with others. Also seeing a lot of books lying around just makes me really happy. 

Anyway, $25 per month seemed like a reasonable amount for books. I usually don't buy books if they're more than $6-7, so that was enough to buy a few new books each month. Oh my gosh. This has been so hard. Every book gets looked at and evaluated and re-looked at and then the food budget and the gas budget get looked at to see if there's any give there. I think books were definitely a blindside in my previous spending habits. This little kindle sale here and that $2 on paperbackswap.com there add up quickly. And the whole instantaneous thing. It's really hard to have to WAIT for a book when I just would really like to have it now and start reading it immediately.

So here are some of my strategies for getting the most out of my book budget.

1. Overlooked books on Kindle - I previously mentioned the kindle habit, so that my Kindle is well-stocked even when I'm on purchasing freeze shouldn't be a surprise. It's been interesting to go back and discover some gems that were overlooked. Over a year ago I downloaded a book called Cinder by Marissa Meyer. I'd started it a couple of times and maybe gotten a total of 10 pages into it. Almost out of new book funds for the month, I decided to try it again. I started reading, and kept reading, and kept reading, and crawled out of the chair and onto the bed and then back again because the suspense and anticipation - I just couldn't sit still. It was soooo good. 

So what genre is this book? Well, ummm, I kept referring to it as my robot book, but really more accurately it's probably YA-sci-fi-re-imagined-fairy-tale with maybe a dash of steampunk. Not my typical cup of tea, but I think it might be my new 2nd fave YA series (Harry Potter #1, of course, but this might displace Hunger Games to #3).  The series is called the Lunar Chronicles (did I mention there are also moon princesses?) and the first is Cinder and hopefully it's obvious which fairy tale it's based on.

2. Library - When I finished Cinder, I went straight to Amazon to download the second book in the series called Scarlet (Red Riding Hood), but it was $10. Nooo!!!! I didn't have that much left in the book budget, although I did totally go ahead and buy the third book in the series Cress (based on Rapunzel) since it was only $3. And in my fixation with instant kindle downloads, I'd allowed my library membership to lapse. The next day I trudged off to the library first thing to get that set up again. However, my branch didn't have the book in stock, so I had to request it via interlibrary loan which means I would have to wait entire DAYS to get it. Ugh. And then there was that whole "snow" debacle and the library was closed and I couldn't go get my book when it came in. Sadness. 

While I was waiting for the book to be transferred to my library, I did jump on my library's digital collection site to see if Scarlet was available there by any chance (checked out) and to see if there was anything else that might be interesting. I scrolled through my Goodreads "to read" list to see if there is anything I might be able to instantly download. I've found that YA is a really good option with my country's digital collection, they tend to have more of those books available digitally then a lot of the adult literature. I've read Princess of the Midnight Ball and a Georgette Heyer novel (my first) called The Grand Sophy via digital books from the library. The first was Ok, and the Heyer book was pretty entertaining.

Sidenote: During the whole snow incident when I realized if I was going to potentially be stuck inside for a few days (wishful thinking maybe, but it could have happened), I asked myself what I thought would be a really hard question: If I could only have access to either books or chocolate (but not both) for the rest of my life which would it be? The answer of books came surprisingly quickly and adamantly. I mean I knew I loved books, but I didn't even have to think about the answer which is a big deal when it's up against chocolate. 

3. The final source I've found of reading material is the stack(s) of books on my bedside table. Not including the four different Bibles present, there are 29 books that I've started reading or set aside to read on that table. That's a lot. Even for me. So I'm committing to finishing some of those. Not necessarily all of them, because while I used to be wholeheartedly committed to finishing a book eventually, now I don't care so much. If it's not good, then I don't care if I read the whole thing. However, if I stopped reading it even though it was actually good because something flashier came along, then those are great books to pick up again and rediscover. Just last night I finally finished Carry On, Warrior by Glennon Doyle Melton which I feel like I need to go back and start again so that I'll remember how to keep trying to be kind and brave and strong. 

A final note on book recommendations: my two most adamant recommendations recently have been The Martian (sooooo super good) and the Lunar Chronicles both of which are fairly sci fi which is not a genre I've explored much previously. I'm much more of a historical time period with some adventure and romance and maybe a hint of mystery type girl. But these have been really engrossing books. I will warn you so that you will not be deceived like I was - there are more than 3 books in The Lunar Chronicles series. Despite thorough research on Amazon (and even the author's own webpage for crying out loud), I really thought this was a three book serious which was great, I'm always glad to come across a series when it's already finished. However, there is a sneaky fourth book (and I don't even know if that's the last) lurking out there waiting for publication later this year. I have to say that it's the book I checked out from the library that made me aware of this fact since it was mentioned on the book flap. Without the physical book from the library informing me of a 4th book, I would have been majorly frustrated at the lack of resolution at the end of book 3. The 4th book is called Winter and I think it's going to be based on Snow White. 

Learn Something New: Hike Georgia

Since moving back to States 6 years ago (I really, really can't believe it's been that long. And this week I really, really miss all that long underwear I used to have), I've tried to make a conscientious effort to learn one new thing each year. 

This kind of started as a way to learn to knit since I was like the only person I knew who didn't know how and it seemed like a good way to redeem time spent watching TV. Of course, now I just doubly waste time by playing games on an idevice while listening to TV and occasionally rewinding because that bit seemed kind of important. 

Some years have been more tangible than others - knitting, gardening. Some have been born of the fact that I didn't have any money for a new hobby -learn about food, get passionate about a cause. And last year was supposed to be learn where to hike in Georgia, but turned into learn a new job. 

So yay, this year's LSN was already picked out which is really good because usually it's about September before I decide on something for the year. I'm using the book 60 Hikes Within 60 Miles of Atlanta as a guide, and my goal is 12 hikes during the course of the year. 

This month a friend and I headed out to Indian Seats for an afternoon hike. The book has helpful charts that divide the hikes up by location, intensity, length, and other things. We were looking for a 3-5 mile hike that was moderate. We wanted something more than a walk in the park, but it had also been awhile since either of us had done much hiking. 

I never really considered myself an outdoor person before moving to Georgia, but also I've always lived in Florida (where the beach is super conveniently located), a college campus (with green space and tracks), or a big city (where there's lots of time outside walking from one place to another even if it turns your snot black). Heck, I even went to summer camp where I lived in a screened-in cabin for 4-8 weeks every summer. So Atlanta is the first place I've lived where I had to really consciously think about where to go to be outside. It was also my first desk job and my first time with a car commute, so neither of those things were helping with spending time outside. 

There's lots of places in and around Atlanta to take advantage of in terms of being outside, so I'm hoping this year (and hopefully longer) of exerting some effort in learning cool hiking places not too far away will pay off for years to come. 

One thing that's different since the last time I did much hiking is smart phones. You can totally just take pictures of the guidebook before leaving the car, and have a compass on your phone, and be able to google or call if things get dire. So different!

And here are some pics from the first hike of the year -

My Favorite Things: Winter Edition

Here are some things that help make winter oh-so-delightful! (After the depressing end of the holidays).

Fingerless gloves - My favorite pair was knit for me by a friend in China 12 years ago. I really can't believe I've held on to a pair for that long. They were perfect for teaching in classrooms without heat, and they're perfect for windshield scraping and chilly steering wheels.

Aquaphor - This stuff has CHANGED MY LIFE! I've had dry lips since moving to GA despite good hydration and copious amounts of Burt's Bees. I asked my dermatologist what she recommended and she gave me a sample of this stuff. Amazing! I haven't had the slightest chapping since then and I only have to apply it a few times a day. Her bottom line was avoid anything wax based and avoid lip gloss (which apparently is awful for your lips).

Rabbit hair socks - These are another item that made the cut when packing to come back from China. My pairs are still all from there, but you can find them on Amazon and I'm sure other places, too. Toasty and soft and will make your feet so happy.

Ugg wool-lined slippers - And if you want your feet to be deliriously happy? So warm and toasty that you don't even particularly care how the rest of your body feels? These slippers are worth the splurge. They were a Christmas gift to me and I wear them as much as I possibly can. I can't tell you the number of times I'll stop and look at my feet and the door and my feet again and then sigh because I just really can't wear my slippers to work or church or Kroger or wherever. This link is to the style that I have. I normally wear a 6.5 but mine are a 7 and with the wool and my rabbit hair socks it can be a snug fit.

Creamer in hot cocoa - Did you guys know this was a thing? I had no clue! And then I heard a coworker talking about it and read it in a book in the same week, and thought that was definitely a sign I should try this. So far I've just done a basic creamer, but it's been deliciously yummy. Since I don't drink coffee, I'm a novice in the world of creamers, so let me know if you have a recommendation on a flavor I should try.

What helps you make it through winter?

Winter Reading List

Here's what I've been reading the past few months.

The Martian by Andy Weir
This is absolutely my top number 1 recommendation right now. If you read only one book on this list, I think this should be it. Even though there are likely some that are more eloquently written, this is my fave. A highly engaging, compulsive read about a parallel timeline where we're sending manned missions to Mars. One guy gets accidentally left behind (explained in the first few sentences of the book) and becomes The Martian - the one person from Mars. Most of the book is set up as a captain's log style journal about his efforts to survive on Mars. As crazy as it sounds, it really doesn't come off as that far-fetched in the book. (Soon to be a movie with a pretty awesome cast - with Matt Damon in the title role).

Me Before You by Jojo Moyes
I read most of this book on Halloween in between trick or treaters and stayed up late, late, late to find out how it ended. I couldn't stop reading it. (Sidenote: I'm beginning to wonder if all of these books actually are compulsive reading or if maybe I'm just a compulsive reader). It's hard to talk about my thoughts on this book without potentially giving away the ending, but this book made me feel ALL OF THE FEELINGS at one point or another. It's basically about a quadropelegic who wants to end his life and his relationship with his care taker. I read it while the news was filled with the young women who had set the date that she was going to end her own life, so the novel rang with an eerie sense of reality. It definitely made me question what I think about physician-assisted suicide and whether or not as a Christian there's an ethical stance I need to take. Come talk to me if you read it so that we can debrief.

All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr
The lives of a young, blind French girl and a genius of a teenage German radio engineer ultimately collide around D-Day in this exquisitely written book. The prose is absolutely gorgeous, and the characters (at least the good guys) are delightfully engaging. It's been a long time since I've read something this beautifully written. But, you know, it's World War II, so sad stuff happens along the way as well as things that are very hard to read about. However, it's well worth the read.

Paris in Love by Eloisa James
This memoir is by a sometimes Shakespeare prof and sometimes romance author writing outside of either genre and yet still touching on both. She took her family on sabbatical in Paris for a year and the result was this deft, clever memoir put together from facebook and twitter posts along with a few longer essays. It may sound weird to assemble a book in that manner, but it works here. Each little blurb is like a perfect of picture of exactly what was going on at the moment. And she portrays with biting humor what living in the City of Lights is like with an American teen and tween in tow. Bonus: It's the perfect book to read when interruptions are likely.

Outlander by Diana Gabaldon
I purchased this book last summer in preparation for a fall schedule with several international trips. This is a big, thick big (at least it has a lot of dots next to it on my Kindle) and seemed like it would be conducive to helping me ignore the fact that I was trapped in a metal tube flinging around the earth for 16 hours at a time. Some people rabidly recommended this book to me. And others were like "meh." Romance? Adventure? Kilts? And it's on sale! What's not to love about this book (is what I thought to myself). Except then I started reading it, and made it about 2/3rds of the way through, and am kind of like "meh." So maybe I'll finish it one day, but also, I'm OK with not finishing it. If you're interested it's on sale for even more now (which is always annoying).

The Invention of Wings by Sue Monk Kidd
I actually haven't started this book, but I went ahead and purchased it when the Kindle version was on sale for $3. It's on several book club lists, so I thought I'd give it a try. It's apparently based on the true story of a female Southern abolitionist and the slave she was given as a child. It's supposed to be epic, and sweeping, and empowering, and lots of other good things. I do hope to read it soon.

Serial
If you're one of the seemingly few people left in America who haven't listened to this podcast yet, then I encourage you to hop online and start downloading it without delay. It's great for listening to on a long drive, or on the treadmill, or commute, or while doing dishes, or folding laundry, or going to get the mail. Listening to this podcast is the first time I've ever wished for a longer commute. It's the true story of a high school senior who was murdered in 1999 and the ex-boyfriend who was convicted of the murder. But was he wrongfully convicted? Sarah Koenig sifts through evidence both old and new to try and answer this question. While it's technically not a book recommendation, it's certainly proved to be a good conversation starter. Make sure you know someone else who has listened to the series so that you can trade theories. There's lots of additional podcasts and online articles on the topic as well.

What are your reading recommendations?

Update on Trip to Asia

Hi Friends,

So one of the big lessons I learned from this trip is not to plan future trips during the latter half of November. To put it mildly, there was a lot to dive back into after we returned from Asia - the last 6 weeks have seen three major holidays, three family birthdays, two bridal showers, one wedding, two trips to FL, one to TN, a new boss, end of year financial processes, and 4 days with my car in the shop. And the last 6 weeks have NOT seen me send out an update to those who faithfully supported and prayed for this trip, but that's about to change. 

This trip to Asia was harder than the previous trip to Europe for so many reasons. Asia is REALLY far away which seems obvious, but that travel time takes a serious toll when you're going back and forth in a week.  There were little things that added up to just make this trip more complicated in ways that the previous trip wasn't. 

The good news is that your prayers sustained us and we saw what mighty things the Lord is doing in Asia. We were able to meet with so many different ministries that are doing amazing things to reach out to the women, children, and men who are victims of the sex industry in Cambodia and Thailand. 

We helped provide meals to those who've traded work on the streets for shame-free employment. We visited centers that provide childcare and medical care and counseling to those who have left prostitution. 

We prayed for those who go on outreach in the bars and clubs where they seek to reach both the women who are sold and the men who buy.

We listened to the tear-streaked testimonies of women whose own families pressured them into selling themselves so that hale and healthy fathers and brothers don't have to work. 

We learned that just as I saw in Europe, the marginalized, the state-less, the poor, and the immigrants are those most easily swept into the trafficking machine. 

One of the most eye-opening things I learned on this trip was the role of Thai Buddhism in the perpetuation of the sex industry. This particular brand of Buddhism is such that sons, teenage boys, are the ones who can earn merit for their parents to have a better situation in their next life. So young men aren't sent to work. They're sent to the temple to serve the monks and earn their parents favor for their future lives. The financial responsibility for the whole family falls on the eldest daughter. She's responsible for earning money for the family, and when you're from the village, that usually means heading to Bangkok for barely-scraping-by jobs in construction or more lucrative but shame-filled jobs in the sex trade. 

A director of one of the ministries that we met with, New Beginnings, shared a story about a family with three sons. They had no daughters to earn money for their family. Not knowing what to do they went to the Buddhist temple and sought advice from their local religious leader. The advice they received? Choose one of your sons to turn into a lady-boy (transvestite) - start him on hormone therapy and treat him as a daughter so that he can go to the city and earn money for your family. 

In both Europe and Asia I've seen the complicity of families and culture in perpetuating the sex industry on both sides of the equation. parents or boyfriends who sell their women in order to gain a more comfortable life for themselves. And fathers in culture where taking your teenage son to the brothel is an acceptable way to introduce him to sex. 

How do we fight against this? How do fight thousands of years of culture and family and even religion? And can we really call it "rescue" if rescue means you have to leave behind your family and culture and everything that you've ever known? How do you convince women that they have more worth and value than they've been told for generations? 

I believe the answer to this is the gospel. The good news of Jesus Christ is the only thing powerful enough to fight an onslaught of culture and heritage and family pressure and generational sin. And I am so proud to work for organization that believes in bringing the gospel to people by living among them and planting churches with a long-term view to transform communities - not through moralism or good works or "just stop doing this already", but by love and grace and forgiveness and freedom from shame. And I am so thankful for my co-laborers who are on the ground in Phnom Penh and Bangkok and are continuing to labor towards communities that are no longer ravaged by lust and greed and shame but communities that are instead ravished by the Holy Spirit. 

Thank you again (and again and again and again) for being part of what God is doing to bring light into the darkness and an end to injustice. My gratitude for you and your partnership in this endeavor is boundless. Thank you.

Please let me know if you have any questions. I've included some resources below if you're interested in learning more on this topic or learning more about some of the ministries and NGOs with whom we worked. 

Love,

J